Women everywhere! There are numerous myths all around the outdoor life especially with women and children. Stick your middle finger in the air to all of those ridiculous things you might hear.
Here are the most common myths I have heard, or even just felt for some reason, about what is needed to be an adventure mom.
Myth: You need money.
Quite the contrary, getting outside takes almost no money. You don’t need anything that you don’t already have. You have legs? Got some shoes? Clothes are good to have on, but still optional. Then you are set to go! Drive to the nearest park or trail and start walking! Let your kids run around. Teach them about what they are seeing. Let them play in the dirt a little.
With so many things to do it is easy to skip adventure. There are so many important things to do that it can easily be put on the back burner. I implore you to reconsider! Start small and get out even if it is only for 10 minutes after dinner. Once you get used to that amount of time gradually extend it.
Myth: You need brand name, nice, gear.
There are mamas that have been doing outdoor activities for years. The truth is eventually you want to have nice gear. Brand names? Not necessary. You may discover being outside is something you love and you want to save up the money for some pretty coats and shoes. No problem, but it is not necessary by any means, especially in the beginning. If you find that they are important to you later on then great! Make room for those things in your budget.
Myth: You must be crazy to do that with your kids.
This is funny to me. I have actually heard people say that adults who do things with their kids like skiing or hiking when they are little aren’t good parents. I have heard people judge moms for putting their child in “jeopardy”.
Confession: I used to think that I was putting my child in danger at times.
One day my husband took him down a small ski hill in his arms and up the lift. I was livid! I believe I said, “This is grounds for a divorce!”
Shortly after that I realized he was still safe with his dad. Aaron was being cautious and Chucho loves doing things like that with us. It was all okay and Chucho will have some great experiences in his younger years. It is the perfect time because his brain is developing so fast at this age! The more experience he gets the better it is for him.
I realized that if we were actually putting him in real danger we wouldn’t be doing it in the first place. Chucho is our primary focus and we will keep him safe as much as we can. If a situation is too dangerous then my son will not be involved.
The world and all of its judgements has us convinced that in order to be a good parent you have to protect your child from every little thing. Parents get slammed left and right for accidents that happen or mistakes that were made. In turn, I believe a lot of parents over shelter their kids.
Granite, there are a lot of terrible things out there but the outdoors isn’t one of them. Kids need fresh air, time away from gadgets, and time with you. Go enjoy some adventure and teach them about life, survival, and how the earth works. Let them learn by experience.
Myth: You must be knowledgeable about the outdoors.
You don’t need to be a genius to go enjoy God’s beautiful creation. You don’t even have to go in the mountains if you don’t want to. Heck it is as simple as finding trails, going to the park, or a place with a lot of grass.
The more time you spend outside the more you will learn about it. If you are learning, then your children are definitely learning as well.
Enjoy your surroundings and use it as a time to reset yourself. The outdoors is the best therapy. We all need a little time to reflect, and take a break from the craze that is our lives. Take time to enjoy life and simply breathe.
Myth: Those moms have no fear.
Okay. This is one of the major reasons people, moms mostly, don’t go out and do things. Fear. It is a terrible emotion that plagues us all. It can consume us if we let it. While watching Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them I heard a quote that resonated with me. Not only because I am a Harry Potter nerd, but because it was thought provoking:
“My philosophy is that worrying means you suffer twice”.
I have mentioned before that I have suffered from severe anxiety my entire life. I know exactly what it feels like to have fear and worry consume my entire being. It was miserable. See my post about anxiety and medication. Getting outside (along with medication and my husband) is exactly how I got over those fears.
This is a BIG. FAT. LIE. Please don’t let fear be the reason you or your kids don’t experience things. Life is so much more enjoyable if you get out of your comfort zone. I didn’t say adventuring is comfortable. It isn’t. The problem with life is even if we are trying with all our might to stay in our comfort zone, there will still be times we are forced out of it. There is no avoiding it. Go out and live. Find what brings you peace and happiness and do it! Go out and DO IT! For more inspiration here is another great read over at Adventure Mama Initiative by Shachi!
Choose to enjoy your life.
Choose good experiences and happy memories.
Choose to be an adventure mom.